Brian and Joy were married for 13 years. During that final year of their marriage, Brian started working longer hours and spending extended time on a project with a female in the office (Alicia). During that year, Brain started pulling away from Joy emotionally and relationally. He didn't realize he was pulling away, but Joy could tell there was something going on. Brian knew that adultery was wrong, but thought that flirtatious conversations would not hurt anyone. He claimed to be "window shopping." He said that he was not looking to purchase, just browse. Brain was deceived. He was sliding down a slippery slope of deception that led toward adultery and divorce.
Now honestly, is anyone reading this post thinking... "hey, let's celebrate this! Let's throw a party in honor of this divorced couple and the grotesque abandonment that Brian performed. I'm sure Joy wants Brian to be happy." I would find that quite disturbing. I would see nothing humorous or wise in doing such an event. Celebrating sin is never a good idea (see Romans 1).
I was shocked when I was e-mailed a link to a blog post this morning that explained just that kind of party. Some people are celebrating their divorce. It sounded odd to me too. This is possibly one of the most disturbing and saddening posts I have read. It saddens me when people are being satisfied with far too little. God has promised healthy, godly marriages full of sexual delight and relational intimacy, but we have to do things His way. It is confounding to think that we can ever do something our way and gain the greatest pleasure. God invented marriage, loves marriage, and intended it to be a picture of Christ and the church. Marriage is for God's glory and our good, celebrating divorce does not just go against the societal norm for a social event, it goes against God.
A divorce party? I think I'll pass.
(Bill Seaver, my brother, was the one who e-mailed the link to me...thanks Bill! I also wanted to let you know that "Brian," "Joy," and "Alicia" are fictional characters for the sake of illustration)