- The first 5 minutes when he woke up in the morning
- The last 5 minutes before he said goodbye for work
- The first 5 minutes when he walked in the door from work
- The last 5 minutes before he said good night
Of course, the time a man spends in God's Word and in prayer is the most important part of the day, but I think Mr. Carman is on to something. What if men intentionally greeted their spouse with gratefulness and grace at the beginning of each morning? What if he lavished love on his wife and kids before he left for work in the morning? What if he greeted everyone in the afternoon by seeking to show interest in their day and not just having a self-focus that sought rest more than relationship? Finally, what would a marriage look like if along with the other 15 minutes of wife-focus, a man sought to honor his wife and communicate his affections for her as they were going to bed? I think this couple would be growing in communication and would be joyfully helped. Obviously, every family has different schedules, but the priority of a husband seeking to be intentional toward his wife is primary...and a little 20 minute change could have big implications for God's work in a marriage.