What happens when Brian starts thinking about pursuing a girl toward marriage and he comes and says, "I think I need to learn how to lead, do you have anything I can read?" By God's grace he is asking the question BEFORE he is in full pursuit of this young lady.
So, what do you give him? One of the best articles on leadership that I have seen is John Piper's "The Marks of a Spiritual Leader." This helpful article speaks of different godly characteristics that a guy should have and be pursuing when thinking about leadership. This article is not just for young guys, but for all men to think through and access themselves when it comes to their family life, devotions, and church leadership. I give it "two thumbs up!"